|Keep him or send him on his way?|
What happens when you are in your early to mid-twenties, and you meet a guy that you find entertaining and enjoy his company, but does not seem like the type you will end up with long-term? Perhaps he does not meet your criteria because of religion, social status, beliefs, lifestyle, age, or even looks. Do you ditch “Mr. Right Now” and search for someone that has more of the qualities on your checklist? Or do you stay with “Mr. Right Now” and take him for a test drive?
In our early to mid-twenties, we still have no idea who we are, or who we are going to be. Some may dispute this claim, but I know that most girls our age really have no idea. Maybe we think we are destined to be with the next Jerry Maguire, but we are really supposed to end up with the next Peter Bretter (Jason Segel in Forgetting Sarah Marshall). One is a driven go-getter business man, while the other is a goofy, sensitive, musician. We may think we know what we want, but how can one really know what their “Mr. Right” will be like if they have nothing to compare it to?
The perfect example of a woman taking advantage of the “Mr. Right Now” is Carrie Bradshaw. Yes, I know she isn’t real, but to me, Carrie’s approach to dating is one I think all women should take. It seems in almost every episode, Carrie dates a different type. Yes, we have all known from episode 1 that Mr. Big was Carrie’s type, and probably the guy she would end up with. But did this the stop her from expanding her horizons and giving other types of men a chance? No way! Carrie dated different kinds of men including but not limited to: the businessman, athlete, artist, furniture designer, politician, writer, producer, just to name a few. Each one of these men was different, some were compatible with her and some were not. Carrie would compare dating to trying on a new outfit, to see if it fit. You know when you go shopping and the saleswoman says, “You have to try this on. I know it may not look like something you would wear, but once you put it on it will fit like a glove and you will love it.” Well, this is kind of what dating should be like.
When I say, “pursue,” I want to clarify that I in no way want any of you to become “floozies” (as my mother would put it). All I am saying is accept that coffee date with the artist you met at that gallery opening last weekend. Go on that hike that you have been putting off with the Green Peace Activist. Or even…go on that blind date that your best friend’s mom set you up on with that guy that looks like he just walked out of a science lab. Putting yourself out there and taking risks won’t hurt, even if it is the worst date of your life. It will either a) help you realize what it is you really want in a guy because he is so far from it, or b) introduce you the man of your dreams, that you never would have met if you didn’t give “Mr. Right Now” a chance.
♥AUTHOR: SAM DAVIDSON